As an advocate for the bereaved, I cannot speak for them, because each person experiences grief uniquely, but I can speak up for them. More importantly, I can shut up and listen.
I would like the world to listen to the bereaved instead of advising them. People grieving the deaths of loved ones, having been booted into a reality others cannot fathom, possess an awareness unknown to most. This is often interpreted as an illness needing healing when in fact it is wisdom about the fundamental nature of the universe.